> put yourself into the places where you get to know new people The recommendations in the TFA directly imply that in these places where one goes seeking conta

> put yourself into the places where you get to know new people The recommendations in the TFA directly imply that in these places where one goes seeking contact, one must also be in a sociable, queryable mode (my periphrase). That way, any potential for agreeable discussion, laughter, or assistance has the best chance of arising. Good conversation requires more than most people give. Modern society optimises for work and monetary transactions, and modern communities optimise for becoming very comfortable cells of isolation in which quality of interaction depends almost entirely on the fragility of family ties that also suffer these optimisations.