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Art exhibitions and gallery openings, the gym, a sports tournament, every kind of society, concerts, bands, club or voluntary activity, ... If you don't put yo

by atoav 4y ago

Art exhibitions and gallery openings, the gym, a sports tournament, every kind of society, concerts, bands, club or voluntary activity, ... If you don't put yourself into the places where you get to know new people and don't spend some fraction of your time there you might not find friends. Getting to know people is not luck, it happens when you want to do it. Getting to know people is the first step of finding friends (or relationships for that matter). There is enough places to go, just pick one you like and put yourself out there.

heresie-dabord 4y ago
> put yourself into the places where you get to know new people The recommendations in the TFA directly imply that in these places where one goes seeking contact, one must also be in a sociable, queryable mode (my periphrase). That way, any potential for agreeable discussion, laughter, or assistance has the best chance of arising. Good conversation requires more than most people give. Modern society optimises for work and monetary transactions, and modern communities optimise for becoming very comfortable cells of isolation in which quality of interaction depends almost entirely on the fragility of family ties that also suffer these optimisations.