TLDR: Ask people questions, genuine deep ones. People like questions. It allows them to talk about their favorite topic: themselves. Don't read that as selfis

TLDR: Ask people questions, genuine deep ones. People like questions. It allows them to talk about their favorite topic: themselves. Don't read that as selfish, it isn't. It's just the realization that any interest beyond the superficial is surprising to people. It's sadly very unusual.