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> We're also perpetuating values like fierce independence. I keep seeing this said, but I don’t see it. What are the examples?
by snoot 4y ago
> We're also perpetuating values like fierce independence.
I keep seeing this said, but I don’t see it. What are the examples?
- tsol 4y agoWell for one, I think it's the first time that "It's better to die alone than to settle for someone who isn't ideal' is commonly agreed with. People feel they shouldn't waste their time, they will only sacrifice for a relationship with someone amazing. There was once a time this was seen as selfish. It still is in a lot of places, in fact.
- snoot 4y agoInteresting. I’ve never heard anyone say anything like that, let alone agree it. That said, it’s unclear why either view would be seen as ‘selfish’.
- worthless-trash 4y agoSelfish: lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. It could be construed that you waste your possible partners time along the way, till you find the imperfection that ends your relationship.
- snoot 4y agoConstruing it that way is just flawed logic. It presupposes that a person goes into a relationship looking for such an imperfection. This is the fallacy of affirming the consequent.
- worthless-trash 4y agoNo, you have flawed logic ;) you're expecting logic from people.. ? If you into a relationship expecting perfection, you will always be sadly mistaken as people are imperfect. Entering the relationship contract this way is "bad faith" but not unheard of. I'm glad that you've never had to deal with it, but in reality it happens.
- signatoremo 4y agoI never heard about this sentiment being commonly agreed. What make you come to that conclusion?