20 requests/sec is absolutely nothing for a server in 2022. Even if you have many relationships, any individual server will handle the load without any fuss. Wo

20 requests/sec is absolutely nothing for a server in 2022. Even if you have many relationships, any individual server will handle the load without any fuss. Worth that can happen is a few minutes in the propagation of messages, which is not exactly a big problem. Seriously, there is no technical reasons we don't self-host; only "cultural" ones (it's hard, it's work, it's painful, and such)