You are right, a lot of people who think everyone around them are horrible narcissists are actually likely to be narcissistic themselves. They project their ina

You are right, a lot of people who think everyone around them are horrible narcissists are actually likely to be narcissistic themselves. They project their inability to hold other viewpoints or be vulnerable on others. To anyone who has had prolonged contact with this style of personality, then you’re also well aware that the first thing they’ll do is say someone else is the problem. Think about Trump’s repeated bald-faced accusations that his opponents are doing what he is accused of. If you can’t see things from someone else’s perspective, then it seems to you like other people can’t see things from your perspective. If you are completely absorbed with worrying about yourself, then people who aren’t constantly worrying about you seem self-centered (i.e., centered on “not you”!) A good way to tell the difference is to see how much detail a person goes into when describing a conflict with another. If they describe the conflict from both sides and in detail, then things are probably ok. If they describe conflict in very vague terms and vilify their opponent, then run for the hills.