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Thanks for sharing some examples! Funnily I'm trying to develop some of the traits and encourage my more humble friends to do the same. For example, I find tha

Thanks for sharing some examples! Funnily I'm trying to develop some of the traits and encourage my more humble friends to do the same. For example, I find that not believing I deserve anything actually led to people treating me badly in the past. And developing a healthy dose of "I deserve this" mentality has improved my day-to-day interactions and even relationships. Another thing I learnt much later in life was that wanting success is the first step of... success, and there is nothing wrong with grand dreams. Maybe I need a narcissist friend and exchange notes.

prirun 4y ago
> Maybe I need a narcissist friend and exchange notes I know you're making a joke, but be careful: you are exactly the kind of person a narcissist will latch onto and take advantage of. > not believing I deserve anything actually led to people treating me badly in the past People who treat others badly will seek out people with self-esteem issues, because they will come back for abuse again and again. Whereas a person with high self-esteem will not put up with abuse. Good luck with your self-esteem boost!
- whatevertrevor 4y ago
  > People who treat others badly will seek out people with self-esteem issues, because they will come back for abuse again and again. Whereas a person with high self-esteem will not put up with abuse. Not just that, that kind of relationship presents itself (at least on the surface) as the comfort zone of both parties. The narcissistic end gets the validation and self-esteem boost. And the person with more self-doubt hears what they already believe in (even if they're trying to change it). That's why it can be a dangerous path because a narcissist (pretty much by definition) is not there to help you make progress, they're there to reinforce their own ego.

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Thanks for sharing some examples! Funnily I'm trying to develop some of the traits and encourage my more humble friends to do the same. For example, I find tha

by analyst74 4y ago

prirun 4y ago
> Maybe I need a narcissist friend and exchange notes I know you're making a joke, but be careful: you are exactly the kind of person a narcissist will latch onto and take advantage of. > not believing I deserve anything actually led to people treating me badly in the past People who treat others badly will seek out people with self-esteem issues, because they will come back for abuse again and again. Whereas a person with high self-esteem will not put up with abuse. Good luck with your self-esteem boost!
- whatevertrevor 4y ago
  > People who treat others badly will seek out people with self-esteem issues, because they will come back for abuse again and again. Whereas a person with high self-esteem will not put up with abuse. Not just that, that kind of relationship presents itself (at least on the surface) as the comfort zone of both parties. The narcissistic end gets the validation and self-esteem boost. And the person with more self-doubt hears what they already believe in (even if they're trying to change it). That's why it can be a dangerous path because a narcissist (pretty much by definition) is not there to help you make progress, they're there to reinforce their own ego.