Strongly disagree (and of course disagree with calling anyone who disagrees with you an idiot..). Everyone I've met who was toxic in my adult life seemed to me

Strongly disagree (and of course disagree with calling anyone who disagrees with you an idiot..). Everyone I've met who was toxic in my adult life seemed to me to have their toxicity coming from something more complex than that. Narcissists seems to be people who are desperately trying to assert something about themselves and constitutionally incapable of self-awareness. Bullies seem to be threatened by how someone else acts according to different values than them, and their weak emotional reaction to it is to try to change it, or punish the person who doesn't see the world they do, because their existence threatens the bully's tenuous validity. It's convenient to say that people are just doing it for advantage but it doesn't hold up to scrutiny if you talk to these people. It also doesn't match their actual behavior at all, since they rarely gain any actual advantage (in wealth, health, or life, for instance). If anything it's usually totally obvious to people around them and alienates them from "healthy" people.