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Yeah I read this article and think: isn't that a possible reaction for anyone who feels like their world is falling apart? It just happens at a different point

Yeah I read this article and think: isn't that a possible reaction for anyone who feels like their world is falling apart? It just happens at a different point for a "narcissistic" person, of which I definitely can recognize some in myself. Just like I can identify with a lot of other things on various spectrums. I don't have much advice on your specific question, other than I happen to have a wonderful woman in my life who taught me some things: laugh at myself, especially when others are teasing me; accept I'm human and don't expect otherwise of myself; things always change, so just be patient and don't do anything drastic in a moment to make things worse.

icegreentea2 4y ago
Lashing out when your self-image is damaged isn't unusual. Individual acts of narcissistic behavior isn't unusual. For example, a relatively normal person might lash out after being dumped, but then after one regrettable night yelling at his friends, or one regrettable text message, realize that he did some dumb things and self adjust. In general, the difference between what usually gets diagnosed a personality disorder, and the spectrum of normal is how systemic a behavior is, and how resistant a person is to changing their behavior.
- throwaway290 4y ago
  Article sure casts a wide net. Like it says collapse can manifest as 'trying to win the other person back if their partner broke up with them'. It says 'people with NPD are so insecure, they often feel empty and hollow – they need admiration from others to feel validated.' Could be NPD and collapse are super prevalent or maybe I need to face some truths about myself and my circles
  - icegreentea2 4y ago
    Right. The article could maybe be written a bit better, but it says right from the beginning that this is an article discussing NPD individuals. NPD individuals do a lot of things that highly overlap with what non-NPD individuals do. They are just much more harmful. In general, whenever you read about X personality disorder, you need to mentally qualify every statement of behavior with some variant of "to the extent of consistently/frequently causing self-harm or harm to others". Chiefly, the fact that you are concerned with acting narcissistic is a strong indicator that you likely would not be diagnosed with NPD. Like I said, acting narcasissitcally in a moment, lashing out when your ego/self-image is damaged, feeling insecure, wanting external validation - these are -all- normal human behaviors. Completely erasing these "faults" is... I think impossible. That said, one does not have to be a NPD to be an asshole. Every group will have different thresholds from "noticeable trend of behavior" and "a real actual problem". Self-reflection is always helpful.

icegreentea2 4y ago

Lashing out when your self-image is damaged isn't unusual. Individual acts of narcissistic behavior isn't unusual. For example, a relatively normal person might lash out after being dumped, but then after one regrettable night yelling at his friends, or one regrettable text message, realize that he did some dumb things and self adjust. In general, the difference between what usually gets diagnosed a personality disorder, and the spectrum of normal is how systemic a behavior is, and how resistant a person is to changing their behavior.

throwaway290 4y ago
Article sure casts a wide net. Like it says collapse can manifest as 'trying to win the other person back if their partner broke up with them'. It says 'people with NPD are so insecure, they often feel empty and hollow – they need admiration from others to feel validated.' Could be NPD and collapse are super prevalent or maybe I need to face some truths about myself and my circles
- icegreentea2 4y ago
  Right. The article could maybe be written a bit better, but it says right from the beginning that this is an article discussing NPD individuals. NPD individuals do a lot of things that highly overlap with what non-NPD individuals do. They are just much more harmful. In general, whenever you read about X personality disorder, you need to mentally qualify every statement of behavior with some variant of "to the extent of consistently/frequently causing self-harm or harm to others". Chiefly, the fact that you are concerned with acting narcissistic is a strong indicator that you likely would not be diagnosed with NPD. Like I said, acting narcasissitcally in a moment, lashing out when your ego/self-image is damaged, feeling insecure, wanting external validation - these are -all- normal human behaviors. Completely erasing these "faults" is... I think impossible. That said, one does not have to be a NPD to be an asshole. Every group will have different thresholds from "noticeable trend of behavior" and "a real actual problem". Self-reflection is always helpful.