I am not at all advocating for low expectations. It doesn't even take much to dramatically affect the odds of individual outcomes. It just takes brutal honesty

I am not at all advocating for low expectations. It doesn't even take much to dramatically affect the odds of individual outcomes. It just takes brutal honesty some are unwilling to have with themselves. It's all about identifying what changes have the biggest impact. Many are working too long for the wrong employer, started a family too young, have bad habits, waste their free time on useless hobbies they've long outgrown, etc. To address your quote, far less "cannot change" than many realize.