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Every time I have tried deliberately putting myself out there, in a social sense, I just get my hopes crushed. So now I just focus on the few things that matter
by autotune 4y ago
Every time I have tried deliberately putting myself out there, in a social sense, I just get my hopes crushed. So now I just focus on the few things that matter to me most in the world and live my life. Sometimes all you can do is stop seeing what isn't there and focus on what is.
- brightball 4y agoIt’s not just putting yourself out there though. It’s also figuring out what isn’t working and trying to improve it. I didn’t write the book on it or anything, but I’ve gone through it in my own life and I know it’s possible. For me I lost weight, got in shape, started dressing more intentionally and then joined a couple of clubs aligned with my interests. Pretty quickly I discovered which of those groups I felt I fit better with and gravitated more there. Over time, those people became friends outside the group too. The older you get the more deliberate this process becomes I find.