It's not my cup of tea, but it also isn't America's messiest divorce. And have lost a child (pre born), I don't understand why spouses should be convinced that

It's not my cup of tea, but it also isn't America's messiest divorce. And have lost a child (pre born), I don't understand why spouses should be convinced that the others way of coping is right or wrong. Choosing to be open about it is as valid as choosing not to be. It's a tough place. In our case, it was the opposite and I wanted to talk and my wife did not. Not everything is so clear on gender lines and I hate that everything has boiled down to this. It took me forever to realize that my wife's way of coping was fine, despite all the psych articles telling me it was wrong. Statistically though, the vast majority of couples will divorce after this.