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You’re a very physically attractive man if you managed to get 40 dates in one year. Your experience will be nothing like that of an average looking man.

dinosaurdynasty 4y ago
That doesn't seem like it makes it better
- bradlys 4y ago
  It’s definitely grim out there for most young men these days. I’m 32 and make the money those girls are looking for but I can’t get a date to save my life cause I don’t have the looks. (Average in almost all aspects) I’ve made offers to my friends that I’d pay them anywhere from $10k-$1m if they found me someone I ended up marrying. No one has taken it up - they know how bad the dating market is and that there’s zero shot.
  - mmkos 4y ago
    Jesus. Don't you think that you're creating a perverse incentive for your friends to hook you up with just about anybody with no regard for whether they're a good fit/decent human being?
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    - bradlys 4y ago
      They’d like to but they can’t find anyone who’d do it anyway. Moot point about incentives if no one is willing to date you at all. Physical attraction is everything these days.
      - mmkos 4y ago
        I get the sense from your response that your self esteem is hurting. I don't know anything about you nor what you look like, but keeping fit and being mindful about what you wear goes a long way in my experience, both in terms of your confidence and attraction from other people.
        bradlys 4y ago
        Nah - I have very high self esteem. I just happen to not be good looking. It’s boomer-talk to think that people don’t care about looks these days. The way people date has changed.
71a54xd 4y ago
I'm maybe a 6/10 on a good day. I went bald at 24 and chronically have black circles under my eyes. First dates don't really count, conversion is what counts. Somehow, you can be somewhat successful in NYC if you're a skinny 5' 10" man, but it rarely leads to a real relationship, especially if you dislike drinking / partying.

dinosaurdynasty 4y ago

That doesn't seem like it makes it better

bradlys 4y ago
It’s definitely grim out there for most young men these days. I’m 32 and make the money those girls are looking for but I can’t get a date to save my life cause I don’t have the looks. (Average in almost all aspects) I’ve made offers to my friends that I’d pay them anywhere from $10k-$1m if they found me someone I ended up marrying. No one has taken it up - they know how bad the dating market is and that there’s zero shot.
- mmkos 4y ago
  Jesus. Don't you think that you're creating a perverse incentive for your friends to hook you up with just about anybody with no regard for whether they're a good fit/decent human being?
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  - bradlys 4y ago
    They’d like to but they can’t find anyone who’d do it anyway. Moot point about incentives if no one is willing to date you at all. Physical attraction is everything these days.
    - mmkos 4y ago
      I get the sense from your response that your self esteem is hurting. I don't know anything about you nor what you look like, but keeping fit and being mindful about what you wear goes a long way in my experience, both in terms of your confidence and attraction from other people.
      - bradlys 4y ago
        Nah - I have very high self esteem. I just happen to not be good looking. It’s boomer-talk to think that people don’t care about looks these days. The way people date has changed.

71a54xd 4y ago

I'm maybe a 6/10 on a good day. I went bald at 24 and chronically have black circles under my eyes. First dates don't really count, conversion is what counts. Somehow, you can be somewhat successful in NYC if you're a skinny 5' 10" man, but it rarely leads to a real relationship, especially if you dislike drinking / partying.