People like to think that this is something that you can "just do" if you try hard enough. While there is some control, much of the positive attributes a perso

People like to think that this is something that you can "just do" if you try hard enough. While there is some control, much of the positive attributes a person can have are genetic, as much as 50%, I've read. Nothing you can do about it. For example of this, let's look at infants. We all know some infants and babies are wonderful and everyone wants to be around them, and others are not. You know what I mean - the baby who smiles and coos and giggles and holds their arms up to be picked up, even by strangers, they are happy and trusting. Meanwhile, some kids cry, frown, are fearful. This all happens in infants, before they even really understand the environment or get kicked in the teeth to make them like that. Kids are like this almost straight out of the womb - 2 weeks into the world. All I'm saying is that there is a massive genetic component to disposition, I don't think this is too controversial if you think upon it. So those people who are born with a great disposition go through life that is easier if people like them more. People with bad genetic disposition can work on it, sure, but they are starting from a 50% disadvantage, and having to work twice as hard is extremely difficult, because it is a 24/7 thing. It's not natural, so you have to be thinking about it all the time, whereas in one with good genetics, they are at 100% right at birth so they don't even have to bother working on being a good person that everyone likes. Opportunities come to them unbidden. Even the people giving the opportunities don't see it that way, they just do it, because...why wouldn't they? This is only a rough framework, I know there are many variables. It's a stripped down view. But that's how I see it.