This brought back some painful memories. The shame and fear is real, but the "passing" bit is no less important. Even if you get out of this, you can't relate

This brought back some painful memories. The shame and fear is real, but the "passing" bit is no less important. Even if you get out of this, you can't relate to e.g. your current co-workers, because you didn't have the same upbringing. It's much like being an immigrant - I've been one too and it was a similar feeling.