I think everyone needs to feel seen—to feel that they have some unique value that they provide to their community or tribe. If you have a rich local network of

I think everyone needs to feel seen—to feel that they have some unique value that they provide to their community or tribe. If you have a rich local network of in person friends and family, I think that mostly resolve the unhealthy need to be extraordinary. Because I think that need often comes from feeling socially isolated and relying on online social interaction for validation. When the public commons where you are seen is run by social media aggregators that only highlight the world's best of everything, it's very easy to fall into a trap where you feel like unless you are front page material, you're nothing. But the real answer is to get a handful of friends who think you're front page material in their actual lives.