Have you tried caffeine pills instead of coffee? I find raw caffeine a lot less troublesome. I don’t get as stressed as you describe from coffee, but it’s not

Have you tried caffeine pills instead of coffee? I find raw caffeine a lot less troublesome. I don’t get as stressed as you describe from coffee, but it’s not always a nice experience (same with tea). Caffeine pills (and L-Theanine aka green tea calm extract) are an option