agreed, I think this trap is related to fear of failure. if you're not telling people your plans because you're worried you won't finish, that might be bad. but

agreed, I think this trap is related to fear of failure. if you're not telling people your plans because you're worried you won't finish, that might be bad. but then you don't want to take any credit for simply making me g plans either. maybe better to discuss what you have done _so far_ toward your goal