> trying to figure out if I was really a trans woman or simply an effeminate man As someone who has also thought about this a lot, I'd be interested in what co

> trying to figure out if I was really a trans woman or simply an effeminate man As someone who has also thought about this a lot, I'd be interested in what conclusion you came to about what the difference is between a trans woman and an effeminate man. The only differences I have been able to come up with are: 1. Dysphoria specifically about the body and/or a desire to change one's body 2. Different views on what gender is (i.e. if you believe gender is performative then you might consider yourself to be a woman whereas someone else with the same personal experience of gender but who views gender as physical might consider themselves to be a man). Based on you saying deciding you are trans has been expensive, I'm guessing you might fall into category 1? But I'd be particularly interested if you have in mind any differentiating factors that aren't on my list.