May be I am just too old, but something there smells completely backwards to me. > When you meet someone through an app you have no loyalty to that person, the

May be I am just too old, but something there smells completely backwards to me. > When you meet someone through an app you have no loyalty to that person, they don’t know your friends, they don’t work with you, so it’s all too easy for them to not follow up on promises.” What promises? What promise can make me call a girl if I don’t like her? And what promise can stop me from calling a girl if I’m attracted to her. >Amy’s right, apps have moved dating from the public into the private sphere and in doing so they have removed any accountability. Isn’t it backwards? Public scrutiny reduces dates. “She’s older than you! But she’s only 17… She’s too tall. She’s too short. You took them both on the same date?? how was it?”. My dates are my private business. Friends and family have no say in that. If they try to say something- I’ll leave the room. And so nobody prevents me from dating whom I’m attracted to. Accountability? it reduces dates, no? >Now we connect with people when we’re shut away at home, under duvets, behind closed doors, which makes it so much easier to behave badly. One behaves badly when no one sees him?? Well, tbh I sometimes do. But you can’t behave badly towards an attractive girl. It’s both impossible and counterproductive.