I like your comparison to a mean person. But the true analogy is if someone is attracted to a person they know in 2010 who is a jerk at that time. Then the pers

I like your comparison to a mean person. But the true analogy is if someone is attracted to a person they know in 2010 who is a jerk at that time. Then the person becomes nice 10 years later. At that time the person is not attracted to the new personality. But the person says "I identify as a person who has always been nice, and you liked me 10 years ago, so therefore you like nice people." That doesn't add up, at least for me. Especially if you're not allowed to say that the person used to be mean since due to their current self-identification as nice.