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"A huge number of them have extremely painful and negative associations with their deadname and so we backdate it so they can experience their past in a way tha
by HyperSane 4y ago
"A huge number of them have extremely painful and negative associations with their deadname and so we backdate it so they can experience their past in a way that doesn’t bring up trauma."
Society really should not have to pretend they were never a woman just to protect a person's feelings. And why is acknowledging that they used to be a woman be so horrible? They have their own memories of their life before transitioning.
- Spivak 4y agoUhh I meant backdating his name. He was never a woman that’s like the whole point. So you’re asking why bringing up that he used to be perceived as and treated as a woman which gave him gender dysphoria — a feeling so bad that it causes 80% of trans people to seriously consider taking their own like and 40% of people to actually try — horrible? You being up a good point about memories. But memories are mutable, first person, and we’re really bad at remembering how our bodies felt at different times so most of his memories probably feature him as he is now.
- HyperSane 4y ago
- throwaway22032 4y agoYour comment here pretty much hits on the crux of the issue. According to your ideology, he never was a woman. But... he was. He was a baby girl, a teenage girl, an adult woman, all or at least most of that whilst I assume suffering dysphoria. He is now an adult man who, unfortunately, likely still doesn't feel "complete". Grandpa suffered trauma during the war. So we don't bring up the war, at least in his presence. We don't pretend that he never served. You can be sensitive about history without rewriting it, we do it for everything else.
- SV_BubbleTime 4y agoBold of you to assume some people wouldn’t want to rewrite history while telling you they are happy to rewrite history.