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Sorry to hear that. Do you fear being lonely

• varispeed 4y ago
  I don't feel lonely. I used to, but when I dug deep into those feelings I realised it was mostly because of the social construct that are being imposed upon us and peer pressure. People say "how come you don't have friends? What's wrong with you?" which can make one anxious and wanting to belong and which can be misconstrued as feeling lonely. People also used to need friends, so that they could share their experiences and gain knowledge how to deal with life situations. For instance, if you found yourself in debt or having trouble at work, you would ask a friend for advice what to do or look for reassurances that you are doing the right thing. Usually though your "friend" would know about this just as much as you do, resulting in poor advice or they would use that private information in the future against you or to get some advantage. Now, thanks to internet, you can get expert advice for cheap and the risk of your personal information being used against you is much much lower. I think friendships were an evolutionary stop for information exchange and now that we have something much better, it will eventually fade away.