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The so called "friends" always look to take advantage of you or make you act against your own interest so they can feel better than yourself and then when there

The so called "friends" always look to take advantage of you or make you act against your own interest so they can feel better than yourself and then when there is an opportunity they'll backstab you. My life has become so much better when I cut all contact with all people I used to know - turns out they weren't friends anyway. That being said, I limit my contacts to strictly business. If something does not benefit me, I don't engage. No more stress, no more drama, more free time, more enjoyment.

drbeast 4y ago
The reality is most friendships aren't healthy or worse are extremely limiting. People who still have friends from childhood into late adulthood are mostly likely insecure and haven't grown up at all. Exceptions to this do exist, but 9 out of 10 this holds steady.
- throwaway_au_1 4y ago
  I wish I could downvote you. Your comment is unsubstantiated nonsense.
  - drbeast 4y ago
moneywoes 4y ago
Sorry to hear that. Do you fear being lonely
- varispeed 4y ago
  I don't feel lonely. I used to, but when I dug deep into those feelings I realised it was mostly because of the social construct that are being imposed upon us and peer pressure. People say "how come you don't have friends? What's wrong with you?" which can make one anxious and wanting to belong and which can be misconstrued as feeling lonely. People also used to need friends, so that they could share their experiences and gain knowledge how to deal with life situations. For instance, if you found yourself in debt or having trouble at work, you would ask a friend for advice what to do or look for reassurances that you are doing the right thing. Usually though your "friend" would know about this just as much as you do, resulting in poor advice or they would use that private information in the future against you or to get some advantage. Now, thanks to internet, you can get expert advice for cheap and the risk of your personal information being used against you is much much lower. I think friendships were an evolutionary stop for information exchange and now that we have something much better, it will eventually fade away.

drbeast 4y ago

The reality is most friendships aren't healthy or worse are extremely limiting. People who still have friends from childhood into late adulthood are mostly likely insecure and haven't grown up at all. Exceptions to this do exist, but 9 out of 10 this holds steady.

throwaway_au_1 4y ago
I wish I could downvote you. Your comment is unsubstantiated nonsense.
- drbeast 4y ago

moneywoes 4y ago

Sorry to hear that. Do you fear being lonely

varispeed 4y ago
I don't feel lonely. I used to, but when I dug deep into those feelings I realised it was mostly because of the social construct that are being imposed upon us and peer pressure. People say "how come you don't have friends? What's wrong with you?" which can make one anxious and wanting to belong and which can be misconstrued as feeling lonely. People also used to need friends, so that they could share their experiences and gain knowledge how to deal with life situations. For instance, if you found yourself in debt or having trouble at work, you would ask a friend for advice what to do or look for reassurances that you are doing the right thing. Usually though your "friend" would know about this just as much as you do, resulting in poor advice or they would use that private information in the future against you or to get some advantage. Now, thanks to internet, you can get expert advice for cheap and the risk of your personal information being used against you is much much lower. I think friendships were an evolutionary stop for information exchange and now that we have something much better, it will eventually fade away.