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How do you know what your communication style is and how do you know you're actually making changes to your style? Do you record some of your conversations and
by hasbot 4y ago
How do you know what your communication style is and how do you know you're actually making changes to your style? Do you record some of your conversations and study them later?
I ask this because, based on empirical evidence have a communication style that turns people off. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I've thought about recording conversations. Video would be far better because undoubtedly there are body language issues too.
- BeetleB 4y agoThese books have examples of poor communications and why things can go wrong with them. For me it was simply a matter of reading the examples and saying "Yup, I do this" or "Yup, my boss/coworker does this." Once you somewhat internalize the advice in the book, it's not hard to look at a conversation you had earlier in the day and start itemizing the "mistakes" you made. The hard part is to catch them live before they happen. A word of caution: Don't assume that just because people are turned off that the problem is you. I thought that way and after reading the book, I found out that about half of them were my problem, half with the other parties - and the important message wasn't that I should change my style, but that I should learn to handle it when the other party takes something I said poorly, and help them articulate what is bothering them.