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> start to run the numbers The problem is at a young age you don't know the important things to include in your formulas or how to value them. What's it going
by labrador 4y ago
> start to run the numbers
The problem is at a young age you don't know the important things to include in your formulas or how to value them. What's it going to cost to pay someone to make decisions for you when you start having trouble making them for yourself? It's going to cost a lot to set that up with someone trustworthy ahead of time. If you've done a halfway decent job of raising your kids they will do that for free and you don't even have to set it up. They will be watching you and making sure you are ok. They will do it because they love you, not because you are paying them.
- yamtaddle 4y agoAbsolutely—again, I have kids, so I decided it was worth it. The benefits can be incalculably great, but the costs are a lot easier to see and are very discouraging, and that situation is quite a bit worse than it used to be, for people in the same ballpark as median household income (we don't make FAANG money but are doing quite a bit better than US median, or... well, I really dunno if we'd have kids, otherwise).
- hasbot 4y agoReading this and your earlier comments, it appears you had kids in order to have someone take care of you in your old age?! You seem to have great expectations for your kids. Hopefully they are OK with that.
- random314 4y agoIn some sense, either your kids take care of you OR other people's kids take care of you when you are too old to physically support yourself. Outside of euthanasia when you become physically infirm, there is no other way to live through old age.
- labrador 4y agoThat's a silly accusation because like almost all young people I didn't think about my old age at all. Why think about something so unpleasant when it's long, long way off. I'm speaking of Americans as an American. I understand in other cultures it's something they think about, but America is a youth culture that doesn't teach long term thinking. If my kids don't want to help me that's their right and I'd make other plans while asking God why I did to deserve such ungrateful kids.
- galdosdi 4y agoMaybe in the USA in 2022 this is weird, but in many cultures, taking care of your parents after they took care of you is just normal, commonplace, expected, assumed. Like, the natural circle of life.
- rayiner 4y agoIf they’re not okay with than you failed as a parent or your broader culture has failed. Taking care of the elderly is part of your role as a human.