It is not inentional. I disagree with otherw saying it is cultural as well. It is a combination of personality and the persons understanding of the topic. It

It is not inentional. I disagree with otherw saying it is cultural as well. It is a combination of personality and the persons understanding of the topic. It boils down to you yourself not communicating your intention in the conversation a lot of times. You can say "java is a poor choice because of gc", do you want to talk about langauges in general, are you looking for them to relate to you on your experience with java, are you trying to get better context about why the person wants to use java? Are you mentioning that because you want to get to know the person better and that was your ice breaker? Understand that other people live in a completely different world in their minds than your own. Being clear and direct is not enough, being specific might also be required which means saying obvious intentions and meanings out loud.