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Stop overthinking it. Settle down and have kids. I know no one else will give you this advice, because it’s generally bad advice, but seriously…just start tryin

Stop overthinking it. Settle down and have kids. I know no one else will give you this advice, because it’s generally bad advice, but seriously…just start trying to make the baby and let nature do it’s thing. If you wait for the perfect time, it may never arrive. Or when it does, you’ll regret having waited so long. Nothing in my life has been as worthwhile as raising my children. It’s not always easy, you have to work on resolving conflicts between siblings or you and your kids (teens amirite?) and you’ll have to think of more than just yourself in pretty much any decision you make, and everything has extra steps. It sounds like a pain, but I wish I could do it 4 more times! My mother had me at 16 and thankfully I survived. I’m in a better position but not by any means well off or able to stop working, but I am happy with my lot. I would definitely say make sure you are a functional adult and in a relationship with someone you are going to be forced to deal with for at least 18. Aside from that, let the adventure begin!

notch656a 4y ago
It being "worth it" is not really a given though. I'm also a parent and although I fully execute my duty to the best of my abilities in the interest of the child I never found it to be particularly advantageous position to be in. You're basically on-call constantly for an often rote and laborious task and there is no guarantee you're going to enjoy it. If you do it well nobody (except if you're very luck the child) gives a fuck and if you fail or have remarkably bad luck you end up in prison. I doubt I'm the only one that just tries to enjoy it to the extent to keep my sanity, for the same reason I would try to keep smiling while in prison. My personal advice is if someone has an enjoyable life now and don't absolutely have to have children, stop and think hard about the fact you may turn a lifestyle you enjoy into a responsibility you can't back out of.
Ancalagon 4y ago
Coming from someone who wants kids: IMO this is poor advice. Having kids is a monumental commitment, for mothers especially but fathers too. Your whole life will change and I know of too many people that regret having kids to be able to say this kind of advice is good.

notch656a 4y ago

It being "worth it" is not really a given though. I'm also a parent and although I fully execute my duty to the best of my abilities in the interest of the child I never found it to be particularly advantageous position to be in. You're basically on-call constantly for an often rote and laborious task and there is no guarantee you're going to enjoy it. If you do it well nobody (except if you're very luck the child) gives a fuck and if you fail or have remarkably bad luck you end up in prison. I doubt I'm the only one that just tries to enjoy it to the extent to keep my sanity, for the same reason I would try to keep smiling while in prison. My personal advice is if someone has an enjoyable life now and don't absolutely have to have children, stop and think hard about the fact you may turn a lifestyle you enjoy into a responsibility you can't back out of.

Ancalagon 4y ago

Coming from someone who wants kids: IMO this is poor advice. Having kids is a monumental commitment, for mothers especially but fathers too. Your whole life will change and I know of too many people that regret having kids to be able to say this kind of advice is good.