That is, forgiveness is how I see the other when I see them not as an enemy or friend, but as a tragic part of nature. To me, that's more a part of the reconci

That is, forgiveness is how I see the other when I see them not as an enemy or friend, but as a tragic part of nature. To me, that's more a part of the reconciliation process than of forgiveness. It doesn't require forgiveness to abandon the other and move on. I rather think that forgiveness is the first step to restore the mutual relationship, it's a willful act to salvage what was broken. I guess in my mind, reconciliation is a prerequisite for forgiveness, but whereas reconciliation is about the self, forgiveness is about the other -- or at least the relationship with the other.