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That is, forgiveness is how I see the other when I see them not as an enemy or friend, but as a tragic part of nature. I have moved on. This is an incredibly

• qikInNdOutReply 4y ago
  You could put that feeling behind you by automating holding a grudge. Let Grumblebot take care of your anger issues. def ifPersonaNonGrataPosts(Person NonGrata): let ListOfSins = getListOfSins(NonGrata) for socialMedia in AllSocialMediaAccounts do socialMedia.post(ListOfSins)
• chasd00 4y ago
  I suppose that also aligns when someone seeks forgiveness, they want the forgiver to move on and not hold a grudge.
  • broadwaylamb 4y ago
    No, they want to feel better about themselves but feel like they can't unless the other person forgives them.
• SoftTalker 4y ago
  > Because I have moved on, I don't need to carry the bad feeling around with me anymore This is my view of forgiveness. It doesn't mean reconcile. It doesn't mean forget. It means releasing the hate or anger towards the person who has wronged you. It does not mean you forget whatever they did -- that's likely impossible. It does not mean that you will trust them again, or trust them to the same degree. It does not mean that you were the one who was wrong to have be offended or hurt by whatever it was that they did (though sometimes it's worth reflecting on that). It simply means that you have moved on, and have released yourself from the pain or anger that surrounds those memories. Edit: The framing of forgiveness as "canceling a debt" as f154hfds posted in another subthread is a good analogy.