A lot of this comes down to available resources too. I used to hate how many third party things we used on principle and because I directly felt all the pain of

A lot of this comes down to available resources too. I used to hate how many third party things we used on principle and because I directly felt all the pain of tying them together. Now I’m a lead and I still dislike it but because I have a realistic read on how much bandwidth my team has I think this has balanced my view. I also still feel the pain but sometimes more indirectly (code reviews, for example). I think where I still struggle is “rules for thee but not for me”. At some point, someone on the team (usually the person in charge) is just going to be better at picking which external libs to let in. I find this really hard to teach without it seeming arbitrary. I find it a lot easier to teach good coding habits.