You’re right, the situation is different than I assumed, he just sounds cheap. The point of temperance to me is to be able to better focus my energy and resourc

You’re right, the situation is different than I assumed, he just sounds cheap. The point of temperance to me is to be able to better focus my energy and resources on what is important, like doing well as a father and a partner. That won’t involve forcing physical discomfort on other people.