Eh. I get it. It can be a major event for people. Especially if it's the first time. I'm not sure how I would respond to being laid off. I've never been fired f

Eh. I get it. It can be a major event for people. Especially if it's the first time. I'm not sure how I would respond to being laid off. I've never been fired from a job. I've always quit/resigned. So it would be a completely novel experience for me. When I was reading through the article however, I got it. Because while I haven't lost a parent yet or lost my job, I have lost a wife. One day I got a call around 5pm Friday that she was a state away and leaving me. Like out of the blue. No idea. And people kept trying to tell me how I felt. And none of them were right. They offered vague promises of help, but there was nothing concrete. But I knew what I needed to do and just went about the business. The worst thing, the most annoying thing, was people trying to treat you differently and tell you how you feel and ascribe your every thought, word, and action to the event. If you had a rough morning because you spilled coffee on yourself, well it's the event. If you decide to go out to a bar and see people you haven't in a while, well it's the event. Feeling bored at work, the event. Happy, the event. Sad, the event. Upset because everyone is saying everything is about the event, well it's really because of the event. I can say in my case, I did just want to get on with things. But it's almost like I wasn't allowed to. And I think that's what the article is trying to convey. Let people handle their internal state the way they want to.