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Fist bump! So I'm like this just not as 'successful' AND I haven't gone medicated as I'm on the cusp. Although, I've been putting something off for a while....

Fist bump! So I'm like this just not as 'successful' AND I haven't gone medicated as I'm on the cusp. Although, I've been putting something off for a while....;) 'The thing that's most beneficial is a bit unseen, I'm not carrying a burden of self-loathing, fear, anxiety on my back, all stressors that were a result of my inability to entirely control my focus and do the thing that I wanted to do when I wanted to. That invisible weight that I carried everywhere vanished.' I am currently in the mindset that I don't get to choose what I do. I either do it, or I don't and that has forced me down a route to where I find myself. Which has really worked out. But only because I caught myself and that those knife edge moments went the right way.

jethro_tell 4y ago
> I am currently in the mindset that I don't get to choose what I do. I either do it, or I don't and that has forced me down a route to where I find myself. Which has really worked out. But only because I caught myself and that those knife edge moments went the right way. The problem that I found as I got older is there's substantially less room for just going with the flow. It worked great for years. Now I have people that I'm responsible to and do it or don't do it doesn't work. I can't just leave it to chance if I sit down and read with my kids daily or cook them healthy foods. Their lives will pass by while I'm wondering around waiting for the inspiration to be a good parent. So a heads up, that works great when no one depends on you much. It works a lot less great when you owe people things that you really care about.
- RHSman2 4y ago
  I’m 46 and a fully fledged animal
  - RHSman2 4y ago
    And ‘parenting’ and the other things I’ve manage to choose. However, jobs I can’t stand I leave (eventually) One of the concerns over meds is that it would enable you to do those jobs you just don’t (and maybe shouldn’t) do.
    - jethro_tell 4y ago
      lol, I don't think I take enough of anything to do things I don't want to or shouldn't do. This has helped me to do the things that I want to do. It more helps on the task level and less the overarching job level.
      - RHSman2 4y ago
        It is so interesting how it manifests differently by different people. I still don’t subscribe to ‘it’s all ADHD’ where everything gets lumped into this block of behavioral reasoning. I think it’s at an OS level but I think we are just a little more sensitive than non neurodivergents. And that comes with some huge benefits as well as negatives.
        jethro_tell 4y ago
        No, part of the thing that has made this more successful than when I was a kid is I have spent quite a bit of time working on things like maintaining focus, prioritizing, time management, maintaining healthy sleep patterns. Additionally, I understand what is and isn't ADHD and what can be fixed with a stimulant. If you try to fix all your problems that way, it's not going to work. When I was young, it was just 'here take this'. No help with understand what was happening or how to work on it. And I think that's a bad place to be.

jethro_tell 4y ago

> I am currently in the mindset that I don't get to choose what I do. I either do it, or I don't and that has forced me down a route to where I find myself. Which has really worked out. But only because I caught myself and that those knife edge moments went the right way. The problem that I found as I got older is there's substantially less room for just going with the flow. It worked great for years. Now I have people that I'm responsible to and do it or don't do it doesn't work. I can't just leave it to chance if I sit down and read with my kids daily or cook them healthy foods. Their lives will pass by while I'm wondering around waiting for the inspiration to be a good parent. So a heads up, that works great when no one depends on you much. It works a lot less great when you owe people things that you really care about.

RHSman2 4y ago
I’m 46 and a fully fledged animal
- RHSman2 4y ago
  And ‘parenting’ and the other things I’ve manage to choose. However, jobs I can’t stand I leave (eventually) One of the concerns over meds is that it would enable you to do those jobs you just don’t (and maybe shouldn’t) do.
  - jethro_tell 4y ago
    lol, I don't think I take enough of anything to do things I don't want to or shouldn't do. This has helped me to do the things that I want to do. It more helps on the task level and less the overarching job level.
    - RHSman2 4y ago
      It is so interesting how it manifests differently by different people. I still don’t subscribe to ‘it’s all ADHD’ where everything gets lumped into this block of behavioral reasoning. I think it’s at an OS level but I think we are just a little more sensitive than non neurodivergents. And that comes with some huge benefits as well as negatives.
      - jethro_tell 4y ago
        No, part of the thing that has made this more successful than when I was a kid is I have spent quite a bit of time working on things like maintaining focus, prioritizing, time management, maintaining healthy sleep patterns. Additionally, I understand what is and isn't ADHD and what can be fixed with a stimulant. If you try to fix all your problems that way, it's not going to work. When I was young, it was just 'here take this'. No help with understand what was happening or how to work on it. And I think that's a bad place to be.