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For what it’s worth, I get the impression that you’re being way too hard on yourself. Struggling in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re an awful partner. Everyon

For what it’s worth, I get the impression that you’re being way too hard on yourself. Struggling in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re an awful partner. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and sometimes those react in relationships in unfortunate ways. It’s never just one person who is responsible. It sounds like at the very least, you’re doing two extremely important things well: providing financially and being engaged as a father. Whatever your weaknesses might be, those are two huge strengths. Don’t sell yourself short on those.

steve_adams_86 4y ago
Thank you. I try to remind myself that providing does matter, and focusing on being a dad is something I won’t get to do forever that could have a substantially positive impact on my kid’s lives. If they’re things I do well and they make my family’s life better, it’s something, right? I think the key sometimes is forgiving myself for not being everything for everyone. It sounds absurd when it’s written out like that, but is something I genuinely struggle with. Thanks, thinking that through has actually helped me feel better about things.