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I mostly agree. I'm at a point now where it's hard to believe that I could ever find a gig in my [broad] industry that has a balance that benefits my home life

I mostly agree. I'm at a point now where it's hard to believe that I could ever find a gig in my [broad] industry that has a balance that benefits my home life as much (100% remote, flexible schedule, great supervisor, low stress work, slow paced). However, it absolutely bores me to tears. It's quite literally the "dream job" that I had always imagined - I can play video games all day if I'd like, go fishing for half an hour here and there in the neighborhood lake, etc. - but I really want challenge again. I would almost guarantee that I'm going to have to give up a lot of those "freedoms" to get that 8hours of challenge back into my life. From here, my worry is the regret when it almost inevitably affects my home and family time in a negative light. When I miss that baseball game later down the road or am on a "business trip" for a family event that I most certainly wouldn't ever have to do in the position that I am in now, it'll likely make me 'kick myself' for not keeping this position.

allanmacgregor 4y ago
> I can play video games all day if I'd like, go fishing for half an hour here and there in the neighborhood lake, etc. Twitter ? ;P
- scrapcode 4y ago
  Thankfully, no. It's more of a "standby until shit hits the fan" kind of field.
sanman811 4y ago
I felt this exact thing at my last job! I thought I finally had everything I wanted but turns out I was unchallenged and unsatisfied. A couple things that helped me were picking up other challenging hobbies or books that helped me feel stimulated but ultimately I ended up with a new job. Turns out the perfect workday is not 2 hours of boring work but 5-7 hours of focused, interesting work.
Simon_O_Rourke 4y ago
> From here, my worry is the regret when it almost inevitably affects my home and family time in a negative light. When I miss that baseball game later down the road or am on a "business trip" for a family event that I most certainly wouldn't ever have to do in the position that I am in now, it'll likely make me 'kick myself' for not keeping this position. I worry about this constantly myself, I'm fully remote and I hope that I'll lapse into a sort of malaise at home and I'll start missing out on things I otherwise wouldn't.
nickd2001 4y ago
If you've got kids, I'd say be very grateful for this situation and stay put! ;) If you're bored, how about doing some learning in the hours where you've got not enough challenging to do? Anything from online courses not even in tech, up to Computer Science PHD. Even just learn better cookery skills or something. ;) I mean, one's learning doesn't have to be connected to one's job.. at all! But finding your job easy, not being tired at the end of the day, having time for kids.... that's gold dust. Which is pretty much what you said :)
- scrapcode 4y ago
  Great suggestions, and I have certainly been trying to increasingly fill my "off time" by improving myself. Some things I have implemented since taking on this role and working from home: completed my BSCS, weekly piano lessons, taking courses for certifications (Sec+, Net+, PMP). > But finding your job easy, not being tired at the end of the day, having time for kids... Yeah, that's certainly the crossroads that I am at. I'm at the age I feel like I need to make moves into areas that I want to be (infosec for me) while they're still available, or I'll lose them forever. But I also know I would love to have this job 10 years from now when (if) my kiddo is into competitive sports, etc. Then you add in the slew of other factors that could happen in a decade: reorganization, different supervisors, etc.

allanmacgregor 4y ago

> I can play video games all day if I'd like, go fishing for half an hour here and there in the neighborhood lake, etc. Twitter ? ;P

scrapcode 4y ago
Thankfully, no. It's more of a "standby until shit hits the fan" kind of field.

sanman811 4y ago

I felt this exact thing at my last job! I thought I finally had everything I wanted but turns out I was unchallenged and unsatisfied. A couple things that helped me were picking up other challenging hobbies or books that helped me feel stimulated but ultimately I ended up with a new job. Turns out the perfect workday is not 2 hours of boring work but 5-7 hours of focused, interesting work.

Simon_O_Rourke 4y ago

> From here, my worry is the regret when it almost inevitably affects my home and family time in a negative light. When I miss that baseball game later down the road or am on a "business trip" for a family event that I most certainly wouldn't ever have to do in the position that I am in now, it'll likely make me 'kick myself' for not keeping this position. I worry about this constantly myself, I'm fully remote and I hope that I'll lapse into a sort of malaise at home and I'll start missing out on things I otherwise wouldn't.

nickd2001 4y ago

If you've got kids, I'd say be very grateful for this situation and stay put! ;) If you're bored, how about doing some learning in the hours where you've got not enough challenging to do? Anything from online courses not even in tech, up to Computer Science PHD. Even just learn better cookery skills or something. ;) I mean, one's learning doesn't have to be connected to one's job.. at all! But finding your job easy, not being tired at the end of the day, having time for kids.... that's gold dust. Which is pretty much what you said :)

scrapcode 4y ago
Great suggestions, and I have certainly been trying to increasingly fill my "off time" by improving myself. Some things I have implemented since taking on this role and working from home: completed my BSCS, weekly piano lessons, taking courses for certifications (Sec+, Net+, PMP). > But finding your job easy, not being tired at the end of the day, having time for kids... Yeah, that's certainly the crossroads that I am at. I'm at the age I feel like I need to make moves into areas that I want to be (infosec for me) while they're still available, or I'll lose them forever. But I also know I would love to have this job 10 years from now when (if) my kiddo is into competitive sports, etc. Then you add in the slew of other factors that could happen in a decade: reorganization, different supervisors, etc.