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Still a harmful assumption that nobody has backed up with actual evidence.

nwienert 4y ago
Getting very muscular will earn you all sorts of judgements, that’s humanity. It certainly will reduce attraction from women most stages of life as it’s a stronger indicator of insecurity and low self confidence more than it’s an indicator of physical fitness / competence. If you add in this sort of touchy and sensitive reactionary attitude it will only worsen that. Most important thing in life is to do things out of genuine interest and do them with confidence. Know the prejudices and know they exist for good reason so you can laugh at them, rather than running around trying to ref the world. We’re just going over anecdotes and learned experience about the reality of physical exertion taxing total mental energy. You got very sensitive about it for some reason and are demanding data but no one said anything about data just lived experience (more valuable than data anytime it comes from someone experienced - I trust a single person who ate at every taco stand in LAs review way, way more than the average of every review on Yelp). No one will feel sorry about “prejudice” against fit people, it’s like complaining about prejudice against rich people. If you don’t get why those exist and are valid then the world will rag on you (rightly) for being naive, it’s first-world-problemism at its finest.
- AA-BA-94-2A-56 4y ago
  > It certainly will reduce attraction from women most stages of life as it’s a stronger indicator of insecurity and low self confidence more than it’s an indicator of physical fitness / competence. You have already lost me. This is totally made up and most likely the opposite of the truth, and I would like to see some evidence for this claim. > If you add in this sort of touchy and sensitive reactionary attitude it will only worsen that. So you're saying I should just be okay with you making hateful stuff up and posting it, and that if I ask you for evidence I am being "sensitive" and "reactionary"? Sorry I am not okay with you insinuating that `$fit = dumb` without evidence. You haven't provided any, which leads me to believe that your beliefs stem from your own insecurities more than anything.

Getting very muscular will earn you all sorts of judgements, that’s humanity. It certainly will reduce attraction from women most stages of life as it’s a stronger indicator of insecurity and low self confidence more than it’s an indicator of physical fitness / competence. If you add in this sort of touchy and sensitive reactionary attitude it will only worsen that. Most important thing in life is to do things out of genuine interest and do them with confidence. Know the prejudices and know they exist for good reason so you can laugh at them, rather than running around trying to ref the world. We’re just going over anecdotes and learned experience about the reality of physical exertion taxing total mental energy. You got very sensitive about it for some reason and are demanding data but no one said anything about data just lived experience (more valuable than data anytime it comes from someone experienced - I trust a single person who ate at every taco stand in LAs review way, way more than the average of every review on Yelp). No one will feel sorry about “prejudice” against fit people, it’s like complaining about prejudice against rich people. If you don’t get why those exist and are valid then the world will rag on you (rightly) for being naive, it’s first-world-problemism at its finest.

AA-BA-94-2A-56 4y ago
> It certainly will reduce attraction from women most stages of life as it’s a stronger indicator of insecurity and low self confidence more than it’s an indicator of physical fitness / competence. You have already lost me. This is totally made up and most likely the opposite of the truth, and I would like to see some evidence for this claim. > If you add in this sort of touchy and sensitive reactionary attitude it will only worsen that. So you're saying I should just be okay with you making hateful stuff up and posting it, and that if I ask you for evidence I am being "sensitive" and "reactionary"? Sorry I am not okay with you insinuating that `$fit = dumb` without evidence. You haven't provided any, which leads me to believe that your beliefs stem from your own insecurities more than anything.