I suspect the women themselves were complicit. If having no sex drive was seen as attractive back in the day, it is very possible that women played that role to

I suspect the women themselves were complicit. If having no sex drive was seen as attractive back in the day, it is very possible that women played that role to get the attention (and sex!) from the man they wanted. I am convinced most of the Victorian behavior is an act. It is the classical game of seduction, up to 11.