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It could also just be your expectations that are broken. Maybe you want to pursue more hobbies then can be reasonably be done. Then it's a matter of prioritiz

It could also just be your expectations that are broken. Maybe you want to pursue more hobbies then can be reasonably be done. Then it's a matter of prioritizing the ones you get joy and fulfillment from and letting go on the ones you don't have time to do.

lazide 4y ago
IMO, that is another word for something being broken. Having more hobbies to do than can be reasonably done, but not feeling like you can or should stop is a sign of something wrong elsewhere. Why feel compelled to do them then, after all? The root cause, in my experience, almost always boils down to not enough understanding, awareness, and acceptance of what actually is vs what someone feels should be, could be, or wants to be. Sometimes for good reasons, that matter. Sometimes for bad reasons. Sometimes for no apparent reason at all. The most common factor I see all the time is emotional/mental overwhelm, as in my experience that is the root cause of almost all other causes, as it stops someone from seeing and reacting to the other problems when they occur (like lack of knowledge and bad information, misleading or manipulative other actors that don’t get properly handled, signing up for things that are not realistic due to lack of proper self awareness, lack of healthy coping mechanisms, or over reliance on healthy ones, etc). If you want to read a overly analytical 312 page manual from the Army on exactly this topic, here is the link [https://armypubs.army.mil/epubs/DR_pubs/DR_a/ARN34875-TC_3-22.69-000-WEB-1.pdf https://armypubs.army.mil/epubs/DR_pubs/DR_a/ARN34875-TC_3-2...]. A lot of key Army doctrine involves how to get inside and lengthen the awareness/decide/action loop of the opponent, while shortening theirs, as it is a key tactical advantage. It’s a large part of why the Ukraine war is going as well for the Ukrainians as it is. The lessons apply to us all however. The sooner you can become aware of what is really happening, decide on/synthesize it into a course of appropriate and effective action (or inaction), and then follow through on it effectively, the healthier, happier, and more successful we tend to be. With our bodies, rational analysis is almost always too slow, and can easily lead to self delusion. Mindfulness, breathing techniques, etc. are generally better. However, as Buddha was well aware of and cautioned against repeatedly, delusion is an ever present threat and can easily happen during meditation as well. Both are often needed, IMO, for different parts of the problems we all face.

lazide 4y ago

IMO, that is another word for something being broken. Having more hobbies to do than can be reasonably done, but not feeling like you can or should stop is a sign of something wrong elsewhere. Why feel compelled to do them then, after all? The root cause, in my experience, almost always boils down to not enough understanding, awareness, and acceptance of what actually is vs what someone feels should be, could be, or wants to be. Sometimes for good reasons, that matter. Sometimes for bad reasons. Sometimes for no apparent reason at all. The most common factor I see all the time is emotional/mental overwhelm, as in my experience that is the root cause of almost all other causes, as it stops someone from seeing and reacting to the other problems when they occur (like lack of knowledge and bad information, misleading or manipulative other actors that don’t get properly handled, signing up for things that are not realistic due to lack of proper self awareness, lack of healthy coping mechanisms, or over reliance on healthy ones, etc). If you want to read a overly analytical 312 page manual from the Army on exactly this topic, here is the link [https://armypubs.army.mil/epubs/DR_pubs/DR_a/ARN34875-TC_3-22.69-000-WEB-1.pdf https://armypubs.army.mil/epubs/DR_pubs/DR_a/ARN34875-TC_3-2...]. A lot of key Army doctrine involves how to get inside and lengthen the awareness/decide/action loop of the opponent, while shortening theirs, as it is a key tactical advantage. It’s a large part of why the Ukraine war is going as well for the Ukrainians as it is. The lessons apply to us all however. The sooner you can become aware of what is really happening, decide on/synthesize it into a course of appropriate and effective action (or inaction), and then follow through on it effectively, the healthier, happier, and more successful we tend to be. With our bodies, rational analysis is almost always too slow, and can easily lead to self delusion. Mindfulness, breathing techniques, etc. are generally better. However, as Buddha was well aware of and cautioned against repeatedly, delusion is an ever present threat and can easily happen during meditation as well. Both are often needed, IMO, for different parts of the problems we all face.