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For me: the scare of "I have changed my mind and the sex we had 3 months ago was not consensual." In the olden days, we'd meet, have fun, kiss, have sex and...
by WelcomeShorty 4y ago
For me: the scare of "I have changed my mind and the sex we had 3 months ago was not consensual."
In the olden days, we'd meet, have fun, kiss, have sex and... whatever happened, happened.
Now, there is this realistic probability that what you thought was a fun evening, turns into a drama even a long time after it happened. There is no recourse, no evidence, no change of a fare trail: when s/he "does not feel it" afterwards, you're guilty.
Me personally will not flirt / hit on / touch anyone anymore.
- giardini 4y agoAre you a college student?
- randomguy0 4y agoMan, that’s wild. I don’t know anybody that feels this way. It almost reads as sarcasm.
- EE84M3i 4y agoI don't think it's sarcasm. I spent my teens/early 20s with the messages about "enthusiastic consent" overinternalized, to such a degree that I would ask permission for every little thing (even holding hands or a kiss). I now understand that, like many things, this can't be measured without changing it, so now I focus more on body language and other cues, and my partners and me both seem much happier. I also have strong social anxiety, so that plays into it.
- davidguetta 4y agoThats at best only in some parts of america..