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I did a driving trip through Mississippi a while back, and tbh people were much nicer and mannered than people in suburban California.
by gedy 4y ago
I did a driving trip through Mississippi a while back, and tbh people were much nicer and mannered than people in suburban California.
- FrontierPsych 4y agoThat's probably the vibe you are giving off. We all have "micro" non-verbals that we give off all the time. If you feel generally uncomfortable in Southern California, or anywhere else, but feel "at home" and happy in deep south rural areas, you probably give off unfriendly or stand-offish non-verbals in California and more relaxed friendly non-verbal commumication in the deep south, and people respond accordingly in each place. I'm in Southern California and I get along great with people I meet. There's a convenience store clerk across the street from work, always have nice things to say with her - a couple of times their register went down, she said to take whatever I want and pay them back the next day, which is strange for a 7-11 big corporate-type organization. I hang out with my auto repair mechanic. People are people. You get back what you put in. People always repeat the trope that everyone in SoCal is "shallow" but I've never once had this experience, but I've had it a lot of other places I've lived around the country.
- daveslash 4y agoWhat color are you? That's partially snark, but mostly not. I, as an average looking white guy who lives in suburban SoCal visited some family in Alabama not too long ago. All my life I've travelled through some of the more rural & white parts of America (grew up in one!). Have always been able to strike up a friendly conversation with strangers. On this recent trip to Alabama, I took my Filipino stepdaughter. I've never gotten so many direct stares and ugly glares, from gas stations to grocery stores, in parking lots, etc.. It was actually quite shocking and eye-opening.
- ryan_lane 4y agoBless your heart.