Find a friend who does have personality under whom you can be indirectly (or even directly) trained. Hang out with them often in public places where they are f

Find a friend who does have personality under whom you can be indirectly (or even directly) trained. Hang out with them often in public places where they are familiar and allow them to express themselves with others. You can pick up on some of their interpersonal techniques directly, but you don't even have to do that. Given enough time, you will absorb the behaviors of theirs that resonate with you. Some people here are going to tell you that you're depressed and that there's nothing wrong with having a personality that doesn't feel like a personality to you. It's possible you're depressed or burned out, and that you don't know yourself yet, but I doubt you feel the way you do without a good reason. Those with expressive personalities are more likely to have opportunities placed in front of them. There are clear advantages to learning who you are and being able to make yourself interesting to others. Don't forget to do other things outside of work and vice. It doesn't matter what it is. Try different things out. Go to a climbing gym. Or not. Doesn't matter. You can learn a new language. Or not. Do you enjoy alcohol? Get into wine tasting or home distilling. Just do things and don't be afraid to ditch them if you lose interest. All I know is that I've found a lot of benefit in simply trying things no matter how short lived those interests turned out to be. Do some crazy things, too, within a reasonable risk tolerance. Get on a plane tomorrow and go to Hawaii, or Detroit, or whatever. Dress like a punk and go to a local punk rock show. Buy a large pry bar and go around town at night lifting up manhole covers to see what's under them. Literally anything.