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> Between 2009 and 2018, the proportion of adolescents reporting no sexual activity, either alone or with partners, rose from 28.8 percent to 44.2 percent among

by mkl95 4y ago

> Between 2009 and 2018, the proportion of adolescents reporting no sexual activity, either alone or with partners, rose from 28.8 percent to 44.2 percent among young men and from 49.5 percent in 2009 to 74 percent among young women. Middle class teen fun is a function of parental wealth, youth employment, and other things that were shaky in the 2010s. To put it plainly, it was a very unsexy decade for the average teenager. Nobody wants to date a bum or someone who identifies as a bum.

helloooooooo 4y ago
It also has to do with suburbia. When you have to go everywhere by car, and you are too young to drive, you are beholden to your parents
- mcphage 4y ago
  That seems like a transition that occurred decades earlier, though.
  - bradlys 4y ago
    Helicopter parenting wasn’t as intense as it has been in the last 20-30 years.
  - cykros 4y ago
    The cost of going to bars, coffee shops, and other common spaces was much cheaper in prior decades. If it costs you $10 to have a beer while waiting around at a bar to see who comes in, how often are you heading out? As for coffee shops, the phone/laptop situation persists. There's also something to be said for how many people are more likely to leave the town they grew up in these days, as opposed to in prior decades. When you're in a town you grew up in, there's a social network that allows for a lot more intermingling of individuals, whereas in a city, interaction tends to be more sought out, or not.
    - ryandrake 4y ago
      When I was a before-driving-age suburban teenager, I rode my bike into the city to horse around all day, or if they were feeling generous, my parents could drive me to the mall and drop me off, relying on me to get a ride home before dark. These days, 1. there's no mall or fun places for teens to horse around, and 2. helicopter parents won't let their kids out of their sight for more than five minutes at a time, let alone the entire day.
      - D13Fd 4y ago
        It's not just helicopter parents. I'd love to let my kids have more freedom. But there are roadblocks at every turn: - There aren't as many kids, and other parents don't let their kids out these days, so your kids are often the only ones out there. - Without other kids being out there, it's much harder to estimate what is safe. There is just no data. - Because there are no other kids out there, things that used to be safe no longer are. Our roads don't have sidewalks. Because there are very rarely any kids, people fly down the curvy residential roads at 40+ mph. Even I feel uncomfortable walking carefully on our local roads because people they are so curvy and low-visibility and our neighbors drive so insanely fast. - Because there are no other kids out there, people who see kids by themselves treat it like it's an emergency. I literally had someone run out of a restaurant and grab one of our kids and ask if they are OK, because I wasn't walking close enough to them. Then she treated me like I was the crazy one. - Their teachers tell them its not safe to be out without parents. - Their public school doesn't allow them to be by themselves at the bus stop and won't drop them off without an adult present. - If you send them into a store by themselves, people treat them like aliens or like something is wrong. - Even just leaving your kids by themselves in a temperate car for a reasonable time to go into a store has resulted in a child protective services action in our area. There aren't as many kids any more so people just can't tell what is safe and what is not, and so they assume everything is unsafe. When I was a kid I rode my bike all over town and had free reign, and there were kids everywhere. Now as an adult I have to work hard just to find things that my kids can do without us that won't get the police or child protective services called on us. What is going to happen to the people who grow up this way?
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amanaplanacanal 4y ago
> either alone or with partners Wait, is this saying that 44% of adolescent boys and 74% of adolescent girls aren’t even masturbating? If so, I simply don’t believe it.

by mkl95 4y ago

helloooooooo 4y ago

It also has to do with suburbia. When you have to go everywhere by car, and you are too young to drive, you are beholden to your parents

mcphage 4y ago
That seems like a transition that occurred decades earlier, though.
- bradlys 4y ago
  Helicopter parenting wasn’t as intense as it has been in the last 20-30 years.
- cykros 4y ago
  The cost of going to bars, coffee shops, and other common spaces was much cheaper in prior decades. If it costs you $10 to have a beer while waiting around at a bar to see who comes in, how often are you heading out? As for coffee shops, the phone/laptop situation persists. There's also something to be said for how many people are more likely to leave the town they grew up in these days, as opposed to in prior decades. When you're in a town you grew up in, there's a social network that allows for a lot more intermingling of individuals, whereas in a city, interaction tends to be more sought out, or not.
  - ryandrake 4y ago
    When I was a before-driving-age suburban teenager, I rode my bike into the city to horse around all day, or if they were feeling generous, my parents could drive me to the mall and drop me off, relying on me to get a ride home before dark. These days, 1. there's no mall or fun places for teens to horse around, and 2. helicopter parents won't let their kids out of their sight for more than five minutes at a time, let alone the entire day.
    - D13Fd 4y ago
      It's not just helicopter parents. I'd love to let my kids have more freedom. But there are roadblocks at every turn: - There aren't as many kids, and other parents don't let their kids out these days, so your kids are often the only ones out there. - Without other kids being out there, it's much harder to estimate what is safe. There is just no data. - Because there are no other kids out there, things that used to be safe no longer are. Our roads don't have sidewalks. Because there are very rarely any kids, people fly down the curvy residential roads at 40+ mph. Even I feel uncomfortable walking carefully on our local roads because people they are so curvy and low-visibility and our neighbors drive so insanely fast. - Because there are no other kids out there, people who see kids by themselves treat it like it's an emergency. I literally had someone run out of a restaurant and grab one of our kids and ask if they are OK, because I wasn't walking close enough to them. Then she treated me like I was the crazy one. - Their teachers tell them its not safe to be out without parents. - Their public school doesn't allow them to be by themselves at the bus stop and won't drop them off without an adult present. - If you send them into a store by themselves, people treat them like aliens or like something is wrong. - Even just leaving your kids by themselves in a temperate car for a reasonable time to go into a store has resulted in a child protective services action in our area. There aren't as many kids any more so people just can't tell what is safe and what is not, and so they assume everything is unsafe. When I was a kid I rode my bike all over town and had free reign, and there were kids everywhere. Now as an adult I have to work hard just to find things that my kids can do without us that won't get the police or child protective services called on us. What is going to happen to the people who grow up this way?

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amanaplanacanal 4y ago

> either alone or with partners Wait, is this saying that 44% of adolescent boys and 74% of adolescent girls aren’t even masturbating? If so, I simply don’t believe it.