3 ms·
>Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example Unfair comparison, if gay was used that would be highlighting their sexual orientation
by lvass 4y ago
>Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example
Unfair comparison, if gay was used that would be highlighting their sexual orientation, not the nature of the relationship between each other which is relevant in context.
- sillysaurusx 4y agoI see how it seems that way, but being poly isn’t a choice, in a specific sense: you feel attraction and emotional love for others, even while you’re in a relationship. And it happens repeatedly throughout your life. You can say “well, stop doing that.” But the comparison with being gay is all the more valid here. It’s like saying just don’t be gay. In other words, being poly isn’t merely an agreement between three or more partners. That’s a necessary component (otherwise it would just be cheating), but it’s not sufficient. Some of the people in those three can’t help but feel that way, regardless if they used to be exclusive. It’s doubly hard in the current social climate, because since it’s so new, there isn’t really a way to meet likeminded people yet. The app Open is the closest I’ve seen. So societal normalization is a necessary step before the movement can start flourishing. The topic is incredibly nuanced, and thus quite hard to have a substantive conversation about. But I’m hoping one day to see the phenomenon pop up on HN so that we can have an open discussion about the merits and downsides. (There are plenty of both.)
- 3np 4y ago> being poly isn’t a choice For many it is (to such an extent that there is such a thing as "choice" all). In either case, that's beside the point.