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s/SBF/SBF or one of his 10 polyamorous roommates. Edit: Roommates who are in a mutually intertwined amorous relationship. No offense intended.

by lvass 4y ago

sillysaurusx 4y ago
Could we avoid insulting poly people? I know it’s a little strange, but there’s nothing wrong with being strange. Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example. (Trying hard to keep my comment substantive. I’ll stop doing this if it leads to a poor discussion though.) The poly movement is pretty interesting in general: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxcxftQ/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxcxftQ/ There’s an ongoing TikTok series that’s witty and fun. I’ve found myself drawn in by it. More: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxc78H9/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxc78H9/
- iwillbenice 4y ago
- lvass 4y ago
  >Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example Unfair comparison, if gay was used that would be highlighting their sexual orientation, not the nature of the relationship between each other which is relevant in context.
  - sillysaurusx 4y ago
    I see how it seems that way, but being poly isn’t a choice, in a specific sense: you feel attraction and emotional love for others, even while you’re in a relationship. And it happens repeatedly throughout your life. You can say “well, stop doing that.” But the comparison with being gay is all the more valid here. It’s like saying just don’t be gay. In other words, being poly isn’t merely an agreement between three or more partners. That’s a necessary component (otherwise it would just be cheating), but it’s not sufficient. Some of the people in those three can’t help but feel that way, regardless if they used to be exclusive. It’s doubly hard in the current social climate, because since it’s so new, there isn’t really a way to meet likeminded people yet. The app Open is the closest I’ve seen. So societal normalization is a necessary step before the movement can start flourishing. The topic is incredibly nuanced, and thus quite hard to have a substantive conversation about. But I’m hoping one day to see the phenomenon pop up on HN so that we can have an open discussion about the merits and downsides. (There are plenty of both.)
    - 3np 4y ago
      > being poly isn’t a choice For many it is (to such an extent that there is such a thing as "choice" all). In either case, that's beside the point.
- fisf 4y ago
  This is not about being poly per se. This is about a bunch of hedonistic kids running a company to the ground and likely committing crimes that could fill a textbook. Being poly does not normalize multiple execs fucking each other in a billion dollar company.
- 3np 4y ago
  If anything, avoid insulting people, period. The comment you are replying to isn't, though, unlike many other comments in this thread.

s/SBF/SBF or one of his 10 polyamorous roommates. Edit: Roommates who are in a mutually intertwined amorous relationship. No offense intended.

by lvass 4y ago

s/SBF/SBF or one of his 10 polyamorous roommates. Edit: Roommates who are in a mutually intertwined amorous relationship. No offense intended.

sillysaurusx 4y ago

Could we avoid insulting poly people? I know it’s a little strange, but there’s nothing wrong with being strange. Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example. (Trying hard to keep my comment substantive. I’ll stop doing this if it leads to a poor discussion though.) The poly movement is pretty interesting in general: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxcxftQ/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxcxftQ/ There’s an ongoing TikTok series that’s witty and fun. I’ve found myself drawn in by it. More: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxc78H9/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRxc78H9/

iwillbenice 4y ago
lvass 4y ago
>Imagine how it would sound if one were to s/polyamorous/gay for example Unfair comparison, if gay was used that would be highlighting their sexual orientation, not the nature of the relationship between each other which is relevant in context.
- sillysaurusx 4y ago
  I see how it seems that way, but being poly isn’t a choice, in a specific sense: you feel attraction and emotional love for others, even while you’re in a relationship. And it happens repeatedly throughout your life. You can say “well, stop doing that.” But the comparison with being gay is all the more valid here. It’s like saying just don’t be gay. In other words, being poly isn’t merely an agreement between three or more partners. That’s a necessary component (otherwise it would just be cheating), but it’s not sufficient. Some of the people in those three can’t help but feel that way, regardless if they used to be exclusive. It’s doubly hard in the current social climate, because since it’s so new, there isn’t really a way to meet likeminded people yet. The app Open is the closest I’ve seen. So societal normalization is a necessary step before the movement can start flourishing. The topic is incredibly nuanced, and thus quite hard to have a substantive conversation about. But I’m hoping one day to see the phenomenon pop up on HN so that we can have an open discussion about the merits and downsides. (There are plenty of both.)
  - 3np 4y ago
    > being poly isn’t a choice For many it is (to such an extent that there is such a thing as "choice" all). In either case, that's beside the point.
fisf 4y ago
This is not about being poly per se. This is about a bunch of hedonistic kids running a company to the ground and likely committing crimes that could fill a textbook. Being poly does not normalize multiple execs fucking each other in a billion dollar company.
3np 4y ago
If anything, avoid insulting people, period. The comment you are replying to isn't, though, unlike many other comments in this thread.