Married to a wonderful woman who contributes in every way to our home - in the same way that I do. 2-3 children. Building my own house while the kids are growin

Married to a wonderful woman who contributes in every way to our home - in the same way that I do. 2-3 children. Building my own house while the kids are growing up - in the Santa Cruz Mountains (or Portola valley or woodside or whatever). Spending time riding and rebuilding motorcycles, cars, bikes, and so forth. Having a woodworking shop and other DIY stuff. Working a job where I make the decisions rather than implementing someone else’s poorly made decisions. Spending time with my friends regularly. Dancing with my kids and showing them all the fun things there are to do. I have little interest in reading or writing. Rather spend it making something with my hands, playing with kids, or spending time with my wife. All of these things looked very possible about a year ago. Now they’re looking extremely distant now that I’m divorced, penniless (lost 90% of NW), and generally looking like it’s not going to change anytime soon.