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>I notice this in myself and many others. Everyone. This is literally the first chapter of 'how to win friends and influence people.' The fundamental rule bei
by incomingpain 4y ago
>I notice this in myself and many others.
Everyone. This is literally the first chapter of 'how to win friends and influence people.'
The fundamental rule being taught is to never criticism or condemn someone. How do you deal with it? By not. When someone does something good, you reward and acknowledge.
>The mental gymnastics we play to deflect.
Only in a defensive state. When you criticise you get here but if you never experience criticism, you are actually able to grow.
>Just about everyone plays this game. Elon just did this recently and wrecked havoc on the Twitter staff.
Twitter made some serious mistakes which led into Elon buying. The blame does NOT lay at the feet of Elon. The political activist who banned the ny post and the hunter biden laptop story is the one who ought to be condemned. But there's no point, they know what they did. They'll never learn anything and will do it again.
The nypost sat on the story for some time to release it at the most damaging time. Twitter's political activists had their hands revealed. The story wasn't even a big deal, biden himself doesn't get to pick his family. The real story was twitter's political activism. After their hand was revealed, they obviously started doing it in public.
>How do we deal with this?
You stay positive. Never criticise or condemn. The big problem of political polarization as we saw during the yellow journalism days; since we have had a return to yellow journalism; it's important to bridge the gap. Dont criticize your political opponents but acknowledge when they have done something good.
The republicans learnt this lesson the hard way. You have democrats like tulsi gabbard who regularly talks at conservative conventions. They acknowledge she's right on point and ultimately there are many democrats who are quite reasonable people. This has shifted MANY independents and democrats into the republican camp.
The red wave was a certainty because they dropped the condemnation. Gavin Newsome even said it was a red wave. It's because republicans opened up the conversation with the democrats. This is what politics should be and by doing this will be decisive.
I leave it to you to explain how the red wave didn't occur. The answer is very bad.
- jesuscript 4y agoI heard a whole lot, but what’s the solution?
- incomingpain 4y agoI answered this question twice. You simply don't do anything. Never criticise, never condemn. You can let people spin their stories in their head and leave it such.
- Pigalowda 4y agoYou started off on topic then completely derailed into US political crap. Find something else to care about! Anything! Like the cool kids say on the internet - go outside and touch grass.
- incomingpain 4y ago>You started off on topic then completely derailed into US political crap. I'm not allowed to respond to OP's points? I'm not allowed to decide what I care about?
- Pigalowda 4y agoOh God. What a joy you must be to be around. You can care about whatever you want. I wonder if the people around you all the time have a running tally of what you turn political. Is it everything in your life? I bet it is.
- incomingpain 4y ago>Oh God. What a joy you must be to be around. I responded to OP, I feel it was a reasonable response. Hopefully I was polite in my response. Sure US politics came up but such is the reason for why Elon purchased Twitter. I see many similar fights with people you perceive as 'right-wing' in your previous comments. How come you are so concerned with the 'right-wing' of US politics? I just finished cooking/eating a delicious meal. Chicken breast fried in a white wine sauce. spiced rice and a sour dough bread. Finished off with a hard root beer.
- Pigalowda 4y agoGive me a break - you went through my comments and came away with the completely wrong political impression! I’m a Republican but not a brain dead MAGA or Q. In fact, I’m hoping for DeSantis in 2024. The only thing I like about Biden is Ukraine support - although I’d like to be more aggressive with aid there. I’m glad you ate some chicken. I also had chicken last night. The star of the meal wasn’t that though it was actually the black bean salad by Guy Fieri. Only issue it takes a little while to cut and slice all the stuff. https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/guy-fieri/black-bean-salad-recipe-1946862.amp https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/guy-fieri/black-bean-sal...
- johnhenry 4y agoCan you explain how the red wave didn't occur? I have a good answer, but I'm very curious as to your bad one.
- jesuscript 4y agoIt occurred, it’s just a tight fight.