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Allow failure 'with grace.' People deny as long as they can that which they fear above a threshold. If failure/etc can be viewed as just a part of a larger life
by ianai 4y ago
Allow failure 'with grace.' People deny as long as they can that which they fear above a threshold. If failure/etc can be viewed as just a part of a larger life then it can be easier to admit failure. "Fail early, fail often" and all that.
We're in a state of a maximum denialism though. It reminds me of working in a casino for several hours, walking outside, and only then realizing just how much second hand smoke I was immersed within the casino. Those first few breaths of 'fresher air' would have a tint of second hand smoke, still, and of course my clothes would stink. (I work a mask at the time and it helped, a little. I'd go home and take a very long shower.) Society is so immersed in denialism and "second-hand" denialism that it doesn't even realize how bad it is, yet.
- ianai 4y agoAlso, at some point, it's categorically imperative to accept or conclude that someone will simply never tell the truth or own up to the faults/failures. Their continued denialism is more about their internal mental health than reality. Treat them with care and preferably distance. If you must interact with them then document absolutely everything important with photos/screenshots, emails to yourself, and whatever supportive documentation you can wrap around yourself. Denialism turns into gaslighting which is abuse and must be handled properly, carefully.
- jesuscript 4y agoDid you just reply to your own fucking message? Lol
- ianai 4y agoover 20 minutes had gone by - way too long for an edit.
- jesuscript 4y agoYou just make me laugh. Thanks for that, it’s a big ass universe, and you at least gave me that.