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Many people are young, single, and don't yet have a family. They want more opportunities to meet people. Not that I think work should be where people find rela

Many people are young, single, and don't yet have a family. They want more opportunities to meet people. Not that I think work should be where people find relationships, but rather that different age groups have different needs and desires.

tech_tuna 4y ago
This 100%. I'm an old shit but I too was younger once and paid rent and lived in/near the downtown area where I live. I totally regret throwing away all that rent money but anyway, here I am. At my old company, there were two main offices - one in an office park in the suburbs for the "grownups" and a smaller one in a hip part of downtown for the "kiddies". I worked remotely the entire time and that company also had a large percentage of remote folks like me, this was years before Covid. tl;dr for a lot of younger/single people, work can be a big part of one's social life.
rendall 4y ago
> Not that I think work should be where people find relationships... Full-time employees spend nearly all of their active hours at work. If they do not find relationships / friendships there, where and when will they?
- sidlls 4y ago
  Clubs (activities or nightclubs), online networks, out-and-about (stores), from their existing friends network, etc.
  - rendall 4y ago
    I think this idea that one should not form friendships with coworkers is unnatural. It leads to isolation.
    - mcculley 4y ago
      I wrote relationships, not friendships. I maintain that having sex with coworkers is ill-advised, but not for the same reasons as employers and their HR departments.
      - xboxnolifes 4y ago
        Friendships are a form of relationship. I doubt who you're replying to only meant sexual relationships.
- eastbound 4y ago
  That’s doubly frustrating with the american culture of “declare your girlfriend to HR”. There’s both a problem with dating AND not being allowed to date at the workplace.
- johndfsgdgdfg 4y ago
  > If they do not find relationships / friendships there, where and when will they? Because of the plitical climate. Very few people would be inclined to pursure romantic relationships with coworkers. Meanwhile people at the same coworking space is a fair game. I am speaking from my own experience. The bad thing is it also becomes like high school. Because there's no HR policy to keep people in check.
  - 0cf8612b2e1e 4y ago
    Don’t dip your pen in the company ink has been in the lexicon, since well, when you had to refill pens from ink pots. Lots of uncomfortable situations which can arise from dating within the company which have little to do with current politics.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago
  > Full-time employees spend nearly all of their active hours at work. Perhaps this is not ideal?
  - nopenopenopeno 4y ago
    It is ideal for the ruling class, and they aren’t asking anyone else.
reaperducer 4y ago
Not that I think work should be where people find relationships Work relationships used to be not only completely normal, but expected and accepted. I met my wife of 20 years at work. There were whole universities that had reputations as places where people went to get enough education to land an office job so they could find a spouse. It is only in the last ten years it so that work relationships have become taboo, as HR departments seem to completely eliminate the risk of inappropriate relationships caused by a minuscule minority of bad bosses and the accompanying legal and financial response from eager lawyers.
- mcculley 4y ago
  I am only 50. I have only been legally working for 34 years. I have been advised by HR at various companies to avoid relationships with coworkers for more than "the last ten years". While I find the notion of "inappropriate relationships" amusing and only really serving the interests of employers, I still consider it all-advised to have sex with coworkers. This really only matters where people have power or have a career to think about. People with low-accountability roles need not worry about it. Regardless, I encourage single people to look outside of the workplace. My own experience is that there is more than "a minuscule minority of bad bosses" that lead to problems.

tech_tuna 4y ago

This 100%. I'm an old shit but I too was younger once and paid rent and lived in/near the downtown area where I live. I totally regret throwing away all that rent money but anyway, here I am. At my old company, there were two main offices - one in an office park in the suburbs for the "grownups" and a smaller one in a hip part of downtown for the "kiddies". I worked remotely the entire time and that company also had a large percentage of remote folks like me, this was years before Covid. tl;dr for a lot of younger/single people, work can be a big part of one's social life.

rendall 4y ago

> Not that I think work should be where people find relationships... Full-time employees spend nearly all of their active hours at work. If they do not find relationships / friendships there, where and when will they?

sidlls 4y ago
Clubs (activities or nightclubs), online networks, out-and-about (stores), from their existing friends network, etc.
- rendall 4y ago
  I think this idea that one should not form friendships with coworkers is unnatural. It leads to isolation.
  - mcculley 4y ago
    I wrote relationships, not friendships. I maintain that having sex with coworkers is ill-advised, but not for the same reasons as employers and their HR departments.
    - xboxnolifes 4y ago
      Friendships are a form of relationship. I doubt who you're replying to only meant sexual relationships.
eastbound 4y ago
That’s doubly frustrating with the american culture of “declare your girlfriend to HR”. There’s both a problem with dating AND not being allowed to date at the workplace.
johndfsgdgdfg 4y ago
> If they do not find relationships / friendships there, where and when will they? Because of the plitical climate. Very few people would be inclined to pursure romantic relationships with coworkers. Meanwhile people at the same coworking space is a fair game. I am speaking from my own experience. The bad thing is it also becomes like high school. Because there's no HR policy to keep people in check.
- 0cf8612b2e1e 4y ago
  Don’t dip your pen in the company ink has been in the lexicon, since well, when you had to refill pens from ink pots. Lots of uncomfortable situations which can arise from dating within the company which have little to do with current politics.
lotsofpulp 4y ago
> Full-time employees spend nearly all of their active hours at work. Perhaps this is not ideal?
- nopenopenopeno 4y ago
  It is ideal for the ruling class, and they aren’t asking anyone else.

reaperducer 4y ago

Not that I think work should be where people find relationships Work relationships used to be not only completely normal, but expected and accepted. I met my wife of 20 years at work. There were whole universities that had reputations as places where people went to get enough education to land an office job so they could find a spouse. It is only in the last ten years it so that work relationships have become taboo, as HR departments seem to completely eliminate the risk of inappropriate relationships caused by a minuscule minority of bad bosses and the accompanying legal and financial response from eager lawyers.

mcculley 4y ago
I am only 50. I have only been legally working for 34 years. I have been advised by HR at various companies to avoid relationships with coworkers for more than "the last ten years". While I find the notion of "inappropriate relationships" amusing and only really serving the interests of employers, I still consider it all-advised to have sex with coworkers. This really only matters where people have power or have a career to think about. People with low-accountability roles need not worry about it. Regardless, I encourage single people to look outside of the workplace. My own experience is that there is more than "a minuscule minority of bad bosses" that lead to problems.