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Get tested for ADHD, even if you believe you might not have it. I'm in my mid-30s and been somewhat successful at work but my pattern has always been that I co

by piva00 4y ago

Get tested for ADHD, even if you believe you might not have it. I'm in my mid-30s and been somewhat successful at work but my pattern has always been that I could hyperfocus on some projects for days on end and suddenly I would be bored out of my mind and not able to focus for more than 20 minutes at a time. I've blamed and shamed myself for years, thinking I was being lazy, that my work ethic sometimes was poor/lacking, that I could just force myself into not being in that state. Now in my mid-30s after some years of therapy my therapist and I are uncovering that I very likely have ADHD. I don't want to be medicated, I know some terrible stories from close friends who have been medicated for more than a decade and even though it helped them somewhat the side-effects were no joke after so long. Even without medicine it's really helpful to understand why I behave like this, why I can't seem to muster the willpower that my peers and friends sometimes can to be focused for hours (with breaks). I'm only learning now, after 30+ years of life why I'm like this, I don't wish on anyone to live this long shaming and blaming yourself for supposed failures because you don't fit the mold... Even if you don't have ADHD try some therapy, you might uncover other reasons on why you might not be able to focus for long, there might be issues with perfectionism, fears, etc. that you are not completely aware of. Hope you find some peace, I'm slowly getting it and it's awesome to lift this burden, even if slowly.

kentrado 4y ago
It seems that the problem is shaming oneself. What utility does shaming oneself gives to those who don't have ADHD?
P_I_Staker 4y ago
Yet these days they've taken to not treating ADHD anymore. The psych(o) people will pile on to that guilt trip and make you feel like the worst person, while telling you that you should just quit your job and end your career. People need to understand that if you have ADHD your psych, doctor, and therapist are your worst enemies. They basically operate as secret agents for the insurance companies in order to gather information to permanently remove your health care (not just mental health care, but it crosses over into traditional medicine). Psychs and doctors are responsible for carrying out the genocidal orders of powerful elite. Just like Police officers they are shady low-lifes, with fragile egos; the fruit of their labor is almost entirely death and destruction... tread carefully. I'm really sick of these warnings getting shot down and censored. Since covid, doctors/nurses have been untouchable with at least 40-70% of the public. This is something that effects millions (100,000s?) of Americans, but talking about it gets you branded as a dangerous crazy person... but I get how it sounds.
- piva00 4y ago
  > They basically operate as secret agents for the insurance companies in order to gather information to permanently remove your health care (not just mental health care, but it crosses over into traditional medicine). I live in a country where I don't have to care about that so none of your conspiracy really applies to me :)
  - alophawen 4y ago
    For now. Give it some time.
  - P_I_Staker 4y ago
    Hmm, that's interesting and... good for you? I'm not mad, it just seems weird to brag about this kind of thing to people that are being (lightly) genocided, or otherwise smothered to death by this oppressive system. Also, I'm interested in where you live. As far as I know, these are issues in many countries. I don't think I've heard of a developed country where people don't have do deal with some form of care rationing, or being diverted away from treatment, due to some overcautious concern. It may not be the insurance company, but it's definitely happening in CA/UK/AU.
OnionBlender 4y ago
What were the side effects that were no joke after so long? I started taking Wellbutrin recently.
ojkelly 4y ago
> Now in my mid-30s after some years of therapy my therapist and I are uncovering that I very likely have ADHD. That’s about the time I found out too. > I don't want to be medicated, I know some terrible stories from close friends who have been medicated for more than a decade and even though it helped them somewhat the side-effects were no joke after so long. So, not saying you need to go and try medication—if you’ve found a way to live a happy and healthy life keep at it. But, it’s good to know that some ADHD meds aren’t right for some people. There’s about 5/6 different options whose effects and mechanism of action vary. Most of the frontline meds are stimulants, but a couple are not. What works well for someone, could be horrible for someone else. Finding the right one can be really easy, or difficult and take months. A decade ago I suspected I may have it, but severely misunderstood what it actually was and ignored it. If someone had of told me then what I know now I would have jumped on it. Meds changed my life for the better, and I wish I had the opportunity a decade ago. Until you’ve had chance to try them, I’d caution writing them off. For everyone else reading this, meds help. But they’re not a cure. They’re often likened to glasses. Imagine having permanently blurred vision. There’s a lot you could still do, but damn if it isn’t easier with a pair of glasses.

by piva00 4y ago

kentrado 4y ago

It seems that the problem is shaming oneself. What utility does shaming oneself gives to those who don't have ADHD?

P_I_Staker 4y ago

Yet these days they've taken to not treating ADHD anymore. The psych(o) people will pile on to that guilt trip and make you feel like the worst person, while telling you that you should just quit your job and end your career. People need to understand that if you have ADHD your psych, doctor, and therapist are your worst enemies. They basically operate as secret agents for the insurance companies in order to gather information to permanently remove your health care (not just mental health care, but it crosses over into traditional medicine). Psychs and doctors are responsible for carrying out the genocidal orders of powerful elite. Just like Police officers they are shady low-lifes, with fragile egos; the fruit of their labor is almost entirely death and destruction... tread carefully. I'm really sick of these warnings getting shot down and censored. Since covid, doctors/nurses have been untouchable with at least 40-70% of the public. This is something that effects millions (100,000s?) of Americans, but talking about it gets you branded as a dangerous crazy person... but I get how it sounds.

piva00 4y ago
> They basically operate as secret agents for the insurance companies in order to gather information to permanently remove your health care (not just mental health care, but it crosses over into traditional medicine). I live in a country where I don't have to care about that so none of your conspiracy really applies to me :)
- alophawen 4y ago
  For now. Give it some time.
- P_I_Staker 4y ago
  Hmm, that's interesting and... good for you? I'm not mad, it just seems weird to brag about this kind of thing to people that are being (lightly) genocided, or otherwise smothered to death by this oppressive system. Also, I'm interested in where you live. As far as I know, these are issues in many countries. I don't think I've heard of a developed country where people don't have do deal with some form of care rationing, or being diverted away from treatment, due to some overcautious concern. It may not be the insurance company, but it's definitely happening in CA/UK/AU.

OnionBlender 4y ago

What were the side effects that were no joke after so long? I started taking Wellbutrin recently.

ojkelly 4y ago

> Now in my mid-30s after some years of therapy my therapist and I are uncovering that I very likely have ADHD. That’s about the time I found out too. > I don't want to be medicated, I know some terrible stories from close friends who have been medicated for more than a decade and even though it helped them somewhat the side-effects were no joke after so long. So, not saying you need to go and try medication—if you’ve found a way to live a happy and healthy life keep at it. But, it’s good to know that some ADHD meds aren’t right for some people. There’s about 5/6 different options whose effects and mechanism of action vary. Most of the frontline meds are stimulants, but a couple are not. What works well for someone, could be horrible for someone else. Finding the right one can be really easy, or difficult and take months. A decade ago I suspected I may have it, but severely misunderstood what it actually was and ignored it. If someone had of told me then what I know now I would have jumped on it. Meds changed my life for the better, and I wish I had the opportunity a decade ago. Until you’ve had chance to try them, I’d caution writing them off. For everyone else reading this, meds help. But they’re not a cure. They’re often likened to glasses. Imagine having permanently blurred vision. There’s a lot you could still do, but damn if it isn’t easier with a pair of glasses.